“contempt for trigger warnings is contempt for survivors.” s.e. smith.
I found Shakesville’s responses pertinent too. Some thoughts after reading the xojane piece:
Well I’m not in college in the US, but this discussion is spilling into online use. Unlike the author I think the use of vague trigger warnings are useful; for those only reading me note that triggers are specific for trauma survivors e.g. a sound, the perpetrator’s name and obviously content notes or trigger warnings say e.g. ‘rape’. For those whining about TWs, have they studied gender-based or sex-based violence daily for months and while being subjected to sexual assault or harassment simultaneously? It’s bad enough that at least ever since we had to put on a high school uniform, some of us have been subjected to one form of sexual violence or another quasi daily. Do they ever think that maybe for a day, someone who recently experienced sexual violence may want to avoid reading an article that might give them insomnia? To get an effing break… do they know what it’s like to not get a break ever? (and one thing not being the only form of violence one is subject to daily). Should such a person not study certain subjects? Do all of the person’s classmates need to know hir situation? Why should one have to walk out of a class when they could simply avoid that topic on a particularly hard day? People like em happen to be needed the most in these fields that may be hard for them to study. I’m not talking about myself but once someone was trying to convince me to study psychology or social work, which I didn’t study.
When I had emotions, the hardest thing for me was to hear about cases of child rape or pedophilia. It didn’t happen to me or anyone I know but I would cry an entire night (12-14hours on end) from, to mention something searchable, watching Tshepang (short/play, where there is no graphic violence nor even the participation of a baby to represent the baby). So, obviously I’d avoid watching or reading accounts on the subject if I needed sleep or if I had a test the next day. The word ‘pedophilia’ didn’t have the same effect so a TW or content note would’ve been helpful. In South Africa, everyone had heard of Tshepang’s horrific rape and probably no baby would be given this name now. Not feeling affected by instances of child rape for me is a pathology, so everyone who doesn’t (like me now) has a pathology, is misopedic to a greater-than-average extent or is in some delusional bubble (while being grateful to those who handle their emotions and work in the field). A TW about ‘child rape’ would otherwise be for people who were raped as a child. For every other general TW or CN, it seems to me people who have a problem with them are the ones who live privileged lives and when they read about real life issues, it may be like they are reading fiction, those who they know have these real issues are an abstraction. So the problem is such people often lack courtesy?
From the comments to Triggered linked, Ana Mardoll says: “Unless I missed the memo from our Overlords, no one is being made to do them; they’re a courtesy that people choose to include.”
I don’t know what other people think constitutes reality, but for me it’s included burying both of my parents and repeatedly committing loved ones to terrifying psychiatric hospitals for their own safety. I’m pretty clear on what reality can look like.
We don’t get triggered because we’re weak; we get triggered because trauma responses are physiological. They’re not imaginary or only psychosomatic, and they’re not necessarily part of a lifetime condition. Lots of people around you are trauma survivors, but you may not know it […]
The author goes on to say something else but I think the reason “you may not know it” is that trauma survivors are well aware of the contempt that even those they trust may feel towards them, or if they weren’t they soon become aware of it because their surroundings can’t help but express contempt sooner or later.
That’s all I can type for today, I’ll possibly reblog on Radical Goat (where less likely-to-be-accepted-thoughts go and thus, I only have 4 followers :D)…TBC
I’ve been quiet all of Sexual Assault Awareness Month on WP, #decolonizeSAAM encouraged some great discussions, like the last one on Storify. I didn’t use twitter until recently and didn’t realise what a great search tool it is for any topic.